"I can only surmise about you extroverts, but I can explain the particular way in which introverts use energy to have meaningful interactions. A helpful cartoon is being circulated on the net called “Dr. Carmella’s Guide to Understanding the Introverted” which says fairly self-evidently that “extroverted people gather their energy from their surroundings,” but more interestingly that “introverted people make their own energy and, rather than taking it from others, give it on social contact.” Now that’s a definition I can get behind. As an introvert, I am social. I am just very particular about who and what I socialize with.
Small talk is the hardest form of communication for introverts: if you’re giving energy in a social situation, the most rewarding scenario will be one with purpose, one after which you feel as if you learned something substantial or made a real connection. With chit-chat, the gutter level of conversation, it’s hard to transcend surface interactions, an utterly depleting experience for introverts. We are very utilitarian: if we’re going to leave our own thoughts and enter the world, we want it to be with a small group of people, someone we haven’t seen in a while, or someone we have a crush on. In sum, don’t ask me to “veg” or “schmooze” with you — those words sound gross and I’d rather stay home.”
i forgot where i got this but it was awhile ago n i thought it was trippy az fuq. maybe not az fuq but.